Marie´s Blog

There will be times when being a lone ranger feels awkward specially to parties. Being single, my friends keep on asking me how can I stay to be happy with my solitary situations. So for those friends of mine sending me an email asking me if I am okey or do I feel happy with my life facing the world alone, here is a guide how I handle alone moments.

Parties

At a Wedding party

Make friends at the ceremony. When you sit down, start chatting with the people on either side of you about how they know the bride and groom. If they seem receptive, continue that conversation as you follow your new friends to the cocktail hour.

Get yourself a temporary partner in crime or a few buddies for the night. Whether it is a single girl, guy or a couple, they´ll be your go-to for the entire evening. Even if they are not sitting at the same table as you are, you can visit between courses.

For girls, this is the moment you can usually find men who are of marrying type of person. Plus, the man you might meet in this party is already known by the family so everything goes well to whatever the future may bring.

When a slow song comes on and all the couples get up and start dancing, do not sit there feeling like a sad and lonely loser. Hit the restroom to freshen up your face, then stop at the bar on your way back to grab yourself a glass of champagne.

At a dinner party

Unless the hosts are evil, they´ve probably invited other single people, so seek them out- they are likely feeling just as uncomfortable as you are.

Offer to help the host in the kitchen, whether it´s arrangement hor d´oeuvres or chopping tomatoes. It´ll give you something to do so you are not standing around trying to figure out how to jump in on a conversation.

Flirt just a little with the male or the opposite gender guests. If you are a woman, this is very effective since men tend to be more receptive to a woman alone. If their wives or girlfriend looks annoyed, throw them a genuine compliment. That way the will know that you are not after for their men.

At any party

As soon as you walk in to a soiree, seek out the host and say hello…then follow up by asking him or her to introduce you to some of the other guests in the room.

If he or she is too frenzied to help you make the rounds, hit the bar. A drink in your hand will make you feel less free-floating. Plus, the bar is a place where people venture alone to grab a cocktail, so you´ll find more opportunities to start up a conversation with another guest. SAY: “Have you tried the strawberry martini?”

Hint: Approachable types also tend to hang out by the dessert area, so make your way over. Since they are not as calorie or carb deprived, they are likely to be a little more easygoing than other guests.

You can also see some other tips to get socialized in some parties here.